LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOURSELF - YOU'RE ALL YOU HAVE
The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections. Many of us were raised by parents who were themselves victims - who were not taught to see their own worth, or who were not really seen by their own parents. Our grandparents generation faced massive trauma and upheaval due to the Second World War and the Great Depression. The focus was on survival and minimizing the damage, rather than on love, appreciation and intimacy. Individuals and families today face the challenges of long commutes, longer working hours, and global economic uncertainty. These stresses can beat us down, or make us build walls around ourselves that are so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses and children can't get in. Yet, there is another way.
When we have the courage to let the walls down - to know and embrace ourselves, despite our human failings, we also open the door to connecting in a more caring, emphatic, intimate way with the ones we love and with all living beings. Our brains are wired for survival, but also for empathy. We have mirror neurons that fire when we see other people's pain. Let us learn to love ourselves so we can be more open and compassionate to others, and so we can take down the walls that limit who we can be and what we can contribute. The quotes below are intended as inspiration for your inward journey. Become more mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Know your vulnerabilities as well as your strengths and achievements, and learn to love yourself for both. I have included categories that define some different facets of self love, including awareness, acceptance and growth. Following the quotes is an exercise to help you better know and accept yourself.
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. Carl Gustav Jung
You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are. ~Yogi Bhajan
We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light. ~Mary Dunbar
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Everything worth having costs something, and the price of true love is self-knowledge.
Becoming acquainted with yourself is a price well worth paying for the love that will really address your needs.- Daphne Rose Kingma
My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another. - Shakti Gawain
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.- Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Be True to Yourself
Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. - Unknown
Follow that will and that way which experience confirms to be your own. Carl Gustav Jung
The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
~E. E. Cummings
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. ~Malcolm S. Forbes
Scarcity of self value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence. ~Gary Zukav
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
- William James
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Our entire life … consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”
- Jean Anouih
I’ve finally stopped running away from myself. Who else is there better to be?”
- Golden Hawn
Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
- Ram Dass
To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. Sandra Bierig
Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life.- Ellen Sue Stern
You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha
You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing. ~Ram Dass
It's not your job to like me...it's MINE! ~Byron Katie
Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. - Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet
Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
- Louise L. Hay
A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.- Ken Keyes.
Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.- Margo Anand
If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.- Barbara De Angelis
Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.William Shakespeare, Henry V.
To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don't wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. Alan Cohen
I celebrate myself, and sing myself.- Walt Whitman
Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.- Louise Hay
Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it - Thaddeus Golas